Friends

[John Rogers]

A newlywed young man was sitting on the porch on a humid day, sipping ice tea with his Father.

As he talked about adult life, marriage, responsibilities, and obligations, the Father thoughtfully stirred the ice cubes in his glass and cast
a clear, sober look on his Son.

"Never forget your friends," he advised, "they will become more important as you get older." "Regardless of how much you love your
family and the children you happen to have, you will always need friends. Remember to go out with them occasionally (if possible),
but keep in contact with them somehow."

"What strange advice!" thought the young man. "I just entered the married world, I am an adult and surely my wife and the family
that we will start will be everything I need to make sense of my life."

Yet, he obeyed his Father; kept in touch with his friends and annually increased their number.

Over the years, he became aware that his Father knew what he was talking about. In as much as time and nature carry out their
designs and mysteries on a person, friends are the bulwarks of our life.

After 70 years of life, here is what he, I and you will have learned:

Time passes.

Life goes on.

Children grow up.

Children cease to be children and become independent. And to the parents, it breaks their heart but the children are separated of
the parents because they begin their own families.

Jobs / careers come and go.

Illusions, desires, attraction, sex.... weakens.

People can't do what they did physically when they were young.

Parents die but you move on.

Colleagues forget the favors you did.

The race to achieve slows.

But, true friends are always there, no matter how long or how many miles away they are. A friend is never more distant than
the reach of a need, intervening in your favor, waiting for you with open arms or in some way blessing your life.

When we started this adventure called LIFE, we did not know of the incredible joys or sorrows that were ahead.

We did not know how much we would need from each other.

Love your parents, take care of your children, but keep a group of good friends.

Stay in touch with them but do not impose your criteria.

Send this to your friends (even those you seldom see) who help make sense of your life....

I just did... Buddies Forever


Cheers & Best Regards,

And thank you for being my friend.

[Tom Alexander]

Very well said, John -- and Thank You.

[Harry Nicholson]

Wise words from John. But what to do when friends keep sinking away like drying rocks beneath a rising tide, leaving a fellow bereft. What to do?

[Varley]

The more you have the more you must mourn and the more that will mourn you. Proper friends that is. Moderation in all things!